Chaz Bono, who initially planned to exclude his mother, Cher, from his wedding, has now invited her—but with one important condition. After a period of tension surrounding the guest list, Chaz has made it clear that Cher’s attendance is contingent on her agreement to keep the day focused on the couple rather than on herself. The singer’s larger-than-life presence, while iconic, has often drawn attention away from family events, leading Chaz to feel the need to set boundaries for his big day.

Cher has yet to publicly respond to this condition, but sources say she’s keen on being there and honoring her son’s wishes. Chaz and his partner are eagerly planning a private, intimate ceremony, and by inviting his mother under these terms, he hopes the day will remain about love, family, and their new life together.